a grandmother’s southern banana pudding

My mom’s parents moved to Florida from Tennessee when I was in high school. They moved to a little town about 20 minutes away from where we lived. When my grandparents lived in Tennessee, we didn’t see them often at all. Not even once a  year. Having them just 20 minutes down the road changed things. It gave me the opportunity to really get to know my grandparents for the first time, something I’ll always be grateful for.

Like most households of that generation, my grandmother was the cook in the family. I have fond memories of holiday dinners at her house, dinners that always seemed to include a country ham, tender green beans cooked with a ham hock, and macaroni and cheese. I’m sure she had more desserts in her repertoire, but I only really remember two — chess pie and banana pudding. Those were the ones that I looked forward to at every family dinner where my grandmother had something to do with the cooking.

It’s been a long time since I was in high school – 20 years, actually, says the high school reunion flyer I just got in the mail – and time has marched right along. Over time, my grandmother stopped cooking as regularly. My grandparents started coming to my parents’ house for dinner more instead of the other way around. My grandfather died back in early 2004, just a couple of months after my daughter was born. And, other than making simple meals for herself, she stopped making the banana pudding and chess pie that I loved, along with most everything else. In January of this year, at the age of 86, my grandmother was diagnosed with an aggressive non-Hodgkin lymphoma. She made it through three cycles of chemotherapy followed by a course of radiation therapy. She had to give up her independence and move in with my parents shortly after chemotherapy began. She finished up her last treatment on May 28.

But she got some good news just a couple of weeks ago. Her latest scans look great and she’s in a complete remission. The bad news? She still doesn’t make banana pudding anymore.

So, for the July 4th holiday, we went to my parents’ house for dinner and, because it seemed like the perfect opportunity to celebrate family and tradition, I decided to bring the banana pudding. With my grandmother’s pudding in my mind as the ideal banana pudding – the pudding on a pedestal, you might say –  I set out to do my best. I knew I needed to make a banana pudding chock full of vanilla wafers and banana pieces. Her version always had a meringue on top, but since I intended to make mine a day ahead and then transport it, I went with a crunchy topping of ground vanilla wafers flavored with cinnamon.

We had a lovely July 4th, and my grandmother is doing great. She’s still recovering, but she’s doing just fine. She told me she liked the pudding, and I did too. I liked it a lot, actually. But, you know what? It wasn’t her banana pudding, and I’m not sure I can ever make one that will be. And that’s probably okay, too.

Yield: 12 servings.

Southern Banana Pudding

Serve this banana pudding in a trifle bowl or in a 9 x 13 inch baking dish.


Ingredients for Pudding

7 slightly underripe large bananas
1 1/2 cups sugar
8 large egg yolks
6 tablespoons cornstarch
6 cups half-and-half
1/2 teaspoon Kosher salt
3 tablespoons unsalted butter
1 tablespoon vanilla extract
3 tablespoons lemon juice
1 box vanilla wafers

Ingredients for Topping

1 1/2 cups vanilla wafers
3 teaspoons sugar
1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1 big pinch of Kosher salt
2 tablespoons unsalted butter, melted


Roast bananas: Preheat oven to 325 degrees. Place 3 unpeeled bananas on baking sheet and bake on oven rack in the upper-middle position until skins are completely black, about 20 minutes. Let cool for 5 minutes.

Make pudding: Meanwhile, whisk 1/2 cup sugar, egg yolks, and cornstarch in medium bowl until smooth. Bring half-and-half, remaining 1 cup of sugar, and salt to simmer over medium heat in large saucepan. Temper the egg yolks by whisking 1/2 cup simmering half-and-half mixture into bowl with the egg yolks. Slowly whisk tempered yolk mixture into saucepan. Cook, whisking constantly, until mixture is thick and large bubbles appear at the surface, about 2 minutes. Remove from heat and stir in vanilla and butter.

Transfer pudding to food processor. Add warm peeled roasted bananas and 2 tablespoons lemon juice and process until smooth. [Note: If your processor doesn't hold 11 cups, puree half the pudding with the bananas and lemon juice, then transfer it to a bowl and whisk in the rest of the pudding.] Scrape into large plastic bowl and place plastic wrap directly on surface of pudding. Refrigerate until slightly cool, about 45 minutes.

Cut remaining bananas into 1/4 inch slices and toss in a bowl with the remaining 1 tablespoon lemon juice. To serve this in a large bowl (like a trifle bowl), spoon 1/4 of the pudding into the bowl and top with a layer of vanilla wafers and then a layer of bananas. Continue on with this pattern, ending with pudding. Place plastic wrap directly on surface of pudding and refrigerate until vanilla wafers have softened, at least 8 hours or up to 2 days.

Make the topping: Crush the vanilla wafers by placing them in a plastic bag and beating with a rolling pin, or process them in a food processer. Transfer cookie crumbs to a small bowl and add the sugar, cinnamon, and salt. Whisk together to combine. Stir in the melted butter until the crumbs are coated.

Sprinkle the crushed vanilla wafer topping over the pudding prior to serving.

Recipe adapted from a recipe for banana pudding in Cook's Country, August/September 2010 issue, and from this recipe on Epicurious.

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22 Responses to “a grandmother’s southern banana pudding”

  1. 1
    Brian @ A Thought For Food — July 13, 2010 @ 5:37 pm

    Oh my oh my! I haven’t thought about banana pudding in such a long time. Something I ate at camp… and I loved it!

    Thanks for bringing back the memory!

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    Adrienne — July 13, 2010 @ 6:13 pm

    My fiance is obsessed with banana pudding! I am definitely making this. Thanks for the recipe 🙂

  3. 3
    Jason Phelps — July 13, 2010 @ 6:25 pm

    Just like gift giving, it is the thought and heart that counts. All the memories are a nice bonus as well.


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    Velva — July 13, 2010 @ 9:10 pm

    Cheers to your grandmother! Cheers to the banana pudding that you learned to make from your grandmother.

    • 4.1
      merrygourmet — July 13, 2010 @ 9:21 pm

      Brian – It really is an old fashioned dessert, isn’t it? I’m a sucker for tradition.

      Adrienne – Oh, this is one he’ll love. I promise!

      Jason – You got it. The memories are the best part.

      Velva – Thanks so much! She’s doing fantastic and we’re so proud of her for making it through. She’s a trooper.

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    Macaroni Mama — July 13, 2010 @ 10:55 pm

    I love this post about Mom’s banana pudding. We all looked forward to it, and when you showed up with banana pudding for the Fourth of July, it brought back all those special memories of the meals we had at Mom’s, when she used to cook. Thanks.

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    Gabriela — July 14, 2010 @ 11:04 am

    Banana pudding is one of those quintessential summer desserts, I need to make some soon! Have you ever made it with saltines instead of Nilla Wafers? It’s pretty yummy! Glad I found your blog through Food52 Reciprocity!

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    Joy — July 14, 2010 @ 12:24 pm

    I love banana pudding. It has been so long since I had some. Thank you for the share. I may try this soon, like this weekend.

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    Squeaky Gourmet — July 14, 2010 @ 3:50 pm

    I LoooooOOOooVe how you set up the pictures for this pudding! What a fun and creative way to shoot it!

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    Maria — July 14, 2010 @ 4:32 pm

    I haven’t had banana pudding in ages. Looks so good!

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    Just Food Snobs — July 14, 2010 @ 5:40 pm

    What a beautiful story! Grandmothers are the best cooks, I still remember my great grandmothers cooking. Thanks for sharing your story and recipe!

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    My Simple Food — July 14, 2010 @ 11:42 pm

    This is a really nice recipe. Brings back memories of my grandma too. Thanks 🙂

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    Susan — July 15, 2010 @ 1:53 am

    Lovely post! Believe it or not, I am not a fan of banana pudding or chess pie. I always loved Mom’s Sock-it-to-Me cake…do you remember that one at all? It was a golden bundt cake with a swirl of cinnamon, sugar and pecans…YUM!

    • 12.1
      merrygourmet — July 15, 2010 @ 11:45 am

      Susan – I do remember the Sock-It-To-Me cake! Wonder if she still has her recipe?

  13. 13

    I love banana pudding and this one sounds just perfect! Love the story behind this fab dessert!

  14. 14
    CC Recipe — July 15, 2010 @ 4:28 pm

    I am a sucker for good banana puddin’…this looks wonderful and I would totally cave for this!

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    Jaimie — July 16, 2010 @ 12:58 pm

    I’m going to have to try this. My husband’s grandmother makes a banana pudding, but it is…. gross. It’s pudding out of an industrial-sized can and smothered with Cool-whip, and as much as I adore her, I can’t bring myself to eat it.

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    Sean — July 18, 2010 @ 12:49 pm

    I made this recipe last night for my husband’s 40th birthday dinner. He’s from Kentucky, and so we made all his childhood favorites: Meatloaf, mashed potatoes, corn and ‘nana pudding. This pudding was a major hit with everyone. Thanks for sharing!

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    Mardi@eatlivetravelwrite — July 20, 2010 @ 10:36 am

    What a lovely story – glad you are able to carry on the tradition and that your grandmother is in remission!

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    katherine schantz — February 2, 2012 @ 7:29 pm

    I grew up in N.C. surrounded by strong women that were great cooks…..we have made banana pudding for years….if you want the short version of the above recipe….that is proven at Family ReUnions, Church Suppers and tons of picnics and Sunday lunches….here it is

    1 Large package of Vanilla pudding mix ( make sure you use whole milk, eggs and add a pinch of good, real vanilla) cook until thick
    line the bottom and sides of a 2 quart pyrex dish with real Vanilla Wafers
    put the 1st layer of pudding then the 1st layer of sliced bananas
    alternate up until you reach the top
    top with REAl HOMEMADE meringue ( 4 egg whites, the ones from the eggs you used in the pudding, beaten with alittle sugar and cream of tarter )
    top the pudding then brown the merinque in a 400 degree oven
    yummy, easy and good to the last bite…..enjoy….from kate howard at home

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